July 18

”Our experience has taught me that happiness and passion in marriage do not come from finding the right partner, but in being the right partner.” Bill and Pam Farrel

My relationship with my partner is an important of my life, as is my partner. I am learning that I need to see this from 3 different perspectives. There is the aspect of self, that of my partner, and also the relationship which exists between us, but that is an entity unto itself. The health of things between me and my partner depends on taking care of each of these pieces. I need to take care of myself, my basic needs of food, love, shelter, security and spirituality. This includes working my program and spending time doing my outer circle activities. I need to take care of my partner by doing things like spending time with them, being considerate and respectful, helping out with chores and displaying my love and affection for them. I also need to put time and effort into the relationship between us. For me this means activities like having deep, meaningful conversations about our dreams and aspirations, resolving conflicts, and planning for goals. It also involves reading self-help books, attending seminars, and watching movies about strengthening a relationship. Prayer is also a core ingredient to help build intimacy. When I back off on even one piece of the puzzle, the relationship as a whole suffers. This is an important lesson to remember. I need not go to extravagant measures every day, but putting a bit of my energy into each of the three parts is a healthy plan. Continual work will ensure the longevity of the relationship, as well as my satisfaction and happiness within it.

Affirmation

Today I will ensure to take time for myself, to spend time with my partner and to work on our relationship, in order to maintain this wonderful gift I have been given.