February 12

”Loneliness is the poverty of self; solitude is the richness of self.” Mary Sarton

Most sex addicts struggle with the idea of being alone. We have come to believe that without someone else in our life, someone who meets our needs, that we are not whole, not complete. It is challenging to come to terms with the concept that we must learn to be comfortable in our own skin, to be happy with ourselves by ourselves. It is not a prospect that many of us relish. One of the keys in progressing to this stage of transforming loneliness into solitude is the faith and understanding that our Higher Power is with us and will take care of our needs. Putting our trust in the God of our understanding removes the burden of ever having to be truly alone. We can instead be accompanied by our Higher Power and in those moments truly focus on strengthening our spiritual connection. Like many things we have come to discover in our journey to recovery, our ability to be comfortable with ourselves, alone and tranquil, is something that we have forgotten along the way. We don’t have to learn it brand new, we simply need to find out how to reintegrate it into our positive behaviours to help in restoring our sanity.

Affirmation I can be alone with the knowledge that my Higher Power is holding my hand.