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”Our experience has
taught me that happiness and passion in marriage do not come from finding the
right partner, but in being the right partner.”
Bill
and Pam Farrel
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My relationship with my partner is an
important of my life, as is my partner. I am learning that I need to see this
from 3 different perspectives. There is the aspect of self, that of my
partner, and also the relationship which exists between us, but that is an
entity unto itself.
The health of things between me and my
partner depends on taking care of each of these pieces. I need to take care
of myself, my basic needs of food, love, shelter, security and spirituality.
This includes working my program and spending time doing my outer circle
activities. I need to take care of my partner by doing things like spending
time with them, being considerate and respectful, helping out with chores and
displaying my love and affection for them. I also need to put time and effort
into the relationship between us. For me this means activities like having
deep, meaningful conversations about our dreams and aspirations, resolving
conflicts, and planning for goals. It also involves reading self-help books,
attending seminars, and watching movies about strengthening a relationship. Prayer
is also a core ingredient to help build intimacy.
When I back off on even one piece of the
puzzle, the relationship as a whole suffers. This is an important lesson to
remember. I need not go to extravagant measures every day, but putting a bit
of my energy into each of the three parts is a healthy plan. Continual work
will ensure the longevity of the relationship, as well as my satisfaction and
happiness within it.
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Affirmation
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Today
I will ensure to take time for myself, to spend time with my partner and to
work on our relationship, in order to maintain this wonderful gift I have
been given.
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These thoughts are part of my personal journal - reflections of where I am and have been in my recovery, but also where I want to be. My words come from my heart, and moments of clarity when I am best connected with my Higher Power. May God grant you serenity in reviewing my humble beginnings and my continuing path of recovery.
Showing posts with label self-care. Show all posts
Showing posts with label self-care. Show all posts
Friday, 18 July 2014
July 18
Saturday, 15 December 2012
December 15
”I have always felt that the moment when
you first wake up in the morning is the most beautiful of the twenty-four
hours.”
Monica Baldwin
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An
important part of my morning ritual is putting on my necklace with a cross
pendant, which follows with a prayer of giving this day to my Higher Power.
It is my acknowledgement of a clean slate, the anticipation of the potential
that anything can and may just happen and a surrendering of my will. I can
choose things to do to start my day off on the right foot, and that is
certainly part of it.
Other
things that help are making sure that I have a good breakfast, take care of my
personal hygiene, and pack a healthy lunch – basic stuff for physical
self-care. My spiritual self-care needs to be there as well, so I try to read
a daily meditation and reflect, even if it’s only for 5 minutes. I can find a
couple minutes for prayer in the bathroom, during my commute to work, well
almost anywhere. The importance is that I am taking steps to refresh my
connection to my spiritual centre each and every day.
Life
can take turns for the good as fast as it seems to go downhill some days. I
need to remain optimistic that tides will turn in my favour. Letting Go and
Letting God means living for the fulfillment of His will and not my own.
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Affirmation
I need
to take an active role in maintaining and developing my spiritual self-care,
even if it’s only a little bit each day.
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