”Tact is the ability to describe others as
they see themselves.”
Abraham Lincoln
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I
don’t know that I am always tactful in dealing with others, especially those
close to me. I don’t think I can express my feelings in such a way as to show
others how they see themselves. But then again how I express my feelings is
not about others but about how I am doing. I have every right to let someone
know how their words and actions affect me, but there are ways to do it which
are better than others.
My
preferred method, even though it still feels strange, follows a simply format.
It starts by specifically naming the action or incident that affected me,
followed by my emotions in reactions, and concludes with what I need as a
result. Many times what I need is simply to let the other person know how I
am feeling. Sometimes what they are doing bothers me and I need the action or
the way they are speaking to simply stop. This technique, though it focuses
on me, is meant to be a gift of awareness to the other person. Whether or not
they choose to accept it, open it and do something with it is another matter.
I
keep my feelings to myself less and less often. I rarely find myself burying
them in the holes of the place where they can fester and grow. I am maturing
emotionally and trying to deal with life’s situations as they happen
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Affirmation
Today
I will be conscious of how I express myself and work at keep the focus on how
I feel and what I need to be safe.
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These thoughts are part of my personal journal - reflections of where I am and have been in my recovery, but also where I want to be. My words come from my heart, and moments of clarity when I am best connected with my Higher Power. May God grant you serenity in reviewing my humble beginnings and my continuing path of recovery.
Book Sales
My first print run of 100 copies sold out, but I have had a second printing of an additional 250 copies done this year. So more are available, now at a cost of $20 CAD. My second book, Twelve Steps for Everyday Living, is now available for purchase for $15 CAD. It is my attempt, based on my experience and those who've been a part of my recovery journey, to transform the 12 Steps into a tool for anyone to use to navigate the challenges and trials of life.
In Serenity,
Scott Email: sastewart74@gmail.com
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In other news, after a long debate and some peer pressure, I have started a second blog, along the same vein as Lean on Me, but in my second language. You can check it out here - Tomber dans l'appui.
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