February 9

”I hear and I forget. I see and I remember. I do and I understand.” Confucius

Being a sex addict with a partner or spouse can be challenging. One of the obvious questions is whether or not you can or even should stay together once the addiction has been brought into the open. As hard as it may be in such a situation, it is important to be able to do those things that are best for your recovery. If that means stepping out of your relationship, even temporarily, it may well be the best thing for everyone involved. Both people in the relationship will have issues within the couple, as well as individually. Sex addiction, like any other addiction is a family disease. And perhaps more than other addictions, sex addiction is a relationship disease. Everyone will likely benefit from the time and distance of a separation. The addict as well as their partner need time to reflect, seek help and begin the process of healing. Like my own history, there was a serious breach of trust between me and my partner. Taking a step back was critical in allowing each of us the chance to start rebuilding ourselves and our lives. It was not easy by any sense, but still very necessary. As an addict I was at the point where my words had little value and only my actions could be trusted. Being apart helped to show my commitment to recovery and the personal growth I was experiencing.

Affirmation Today I will try not to run away from the hard choices and trust in the will of my Higher Power for the sake of my recovery.